My friend Taylor tells an amazing story:
A son came to his father and confessed that he’d been looking at pornography. His dad gave him a hug, treated him with love, explained why looking at pornography was unhealthy but then explained that it was natural to be curious.
He told his son, “You’re going to be tempted by this again and when you are, I want you to come and talk to me about it.” This father took something that could’ve been shameful and scary and brought it into the light.
This is the kind of communication you want to have with your teens: open, honest, loving, without shame and always in the light. If your kids confess something to you— that doesn’t mean you’ve failed in some way, it means you’re a fantastic parent. You’re the hero who can save the day.