The Calm River Guide Copy

YELLING silences your message. Speak quietly so your children can hear your words instead of just your voice.― L.R. Knost

Want to stop yelling forever? It’s this simple: no matter how angry you feel, keep your voice calm and gentle. Place sticky notes around the house and in your car to remind yourself. Take time to celebrate your progress and when you do yell, apologize and move on. 

TOOLS:

THE CALM VOICE

CHILL

KIND AND FIRM

FOCUS ON SOLUTIONS

Routines Copy

You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.  John C. Maxwell

TOOLS:

ROUTINES

Simple routines creates order and peace at home.

1. Make the routine the boss to eliminate nagging.

2. Shake up your routines for teens, but don’t leave them behind.

3. Be sure you connect in the morning, after school or work and at bedtime.

Future Focused Copy

There are far, far better things ahead of us than what we leave behind. C.S. Lewis

TOOLS:

FUTURE FOCUS

Setting your focus on future outcomes helps prioritize your time today.

1. Identify your top five goals.

2. Notice how you are spending your time each day.

3. Does your time match up with your goals?

4. Find ways to align your time with your goals.

Emotional Adulthood Copy

Tell everyone you know: “My happiness depends on me, so you’re off the hook.” And then demonstrate it. Be happy, no matter what they’re doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel — and then, you’ll love them all. Because the only reason you don’t love them, is because you’re using them as your excuse to not feel good. -Esther Hicks

Emotional adulthood is one of the most powerful tools for getting along with other people– especially our children. Simply put, emotional adulthood means taking responsibility for your own thoughts and feelings rather than blaming other people. Emotional adults don’t get offended easily (or at all!) and they recognize that when people hurt us they usually act out of ignorance, not cruelty.

 It sounds so basic, but once you start thinking about emotional adulthood, you’ll recognize many situations where adults act like emotional children– throwing tantrums, getting offended at small slights and blaming others for their feelings.

 If you are taking this course as a couple (and we hope you are!), please remember parenting is messy business! We’re all learning and we’re going to make mistakes. Please be kind to yourself and to your co-parent.

On the flip side, we can’t expect full emotional adulthood from our teens. But we can teach emotional adulthood by modeling it ourselves.

TOOLS:

EMOTIONAL ADULTHOOD

Routines

You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success is found in your daily routine.  John C. Maxwell

TOOLS:

ROUTINES

Simple routines creates order and peace at home.

1. Make the routine the boss to eliminate nagging.

2. Shake up your routines for teens, but don’t leave them behind.

3. Be sure you connect in the morning, after school or work and at bedtime.

The Calm River Guide

YELLING silences your message. Speak quietly so your children can hear your words instead of just your voice.― L.R. Knost

Want to stop yelling forever? It’s this simple: no matter how angry you feel, keep your voice calm and gentle. Place sticky notes around the house and in your car to remind yourself. Take time to celebrate your progress and when you do yell, apologize and move on. 

TOOLS:

THE CALM VOICE

CHILL

KIND AND FIRM

FOCUS ON SOLUTIONS