Better Questions Copy

If you want better results, ask better questions.

Negative questions will give you negative answers; positive questions unveil solutions. 

  1. How can I make today better than yesterday?
  2. What can I do to laugh a lot today?
  3. How can I show love to my family today?
  4. How can I take good care of myself today?
  5. What do I love about myself?

Gratitude Copy

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle. Albert EinsteinGratitude is the most powerful human emotion; infuse it into your family and fill your life with joy.

  1. Throughout the day, take notice of the good around you. Take just one extra breath, one more heartbeat to soak in the good.
  2. Keep a gratitude journal. Write down one thing you are grateful for and five specific reasons.
  3. As you go to sleep, list every good thing in your life. This will ease your mind, help you sleep and create new pathways in your brain. The moment you wake up, name a few things that bring you joy.

Affirmations Copy

Your mind believes everything you tell it, fill it with love.

Affirmations serve as a powerful tools to increase confidence in yourself and reach goals.

  1. Positive affirmations are always in the present tense.
  2. Positive affirmations only include positive words.  It takes your brain a lot of extra work to get past negative statements and transform them into positive ones.
  3. Positive affirmations are spoken as statements of fact and truth.
  4. Be relevant. 

Be sure to download the pdf in the materials tab. 

Compliments Copy

Words amplify. Magnify your teen’s strengths, not their weaknesses.

Compliment your kids generously and often; model kindness in your family.

  1. Compliment your teens efforts ie. hard work, courage, follow-through.
  2. Make a special effort to compliment your teen’s kindness and compassion towards others– especially siblings.
  3. Start family meetings with compliments; compliment each family member at dinner.
  4. Do compliment innate qualities– intelligence, beauty, etc.– but compliment actions and effort more.

The Family Meeting Copy

No amount of money or success can take the place of time spent with your family.

Take time for weekly family meetings and daily connection time.

  1. Once a week gather for 15-30 minutes to give compliments, discuss schedules for the week and solve problems. This is the perfect time for a mental health check.
  2. Find a time each day to connect with the whole family. Check in on how family members are feeling, express love for each other, talk about people in need, pray and offer hugs.

Take Time to Teach Copy

How am I supposed to know all the things you never taught me? your teen

Conflict arise when parents make assumptions about teens knowledge of life skills, manners and concepts.

1. Kindly explain tasks. Even simple ones.

2. Avoid shaming a teen for their lack of knowledge.

3. When a child makes a mistake in a task, ask if they need help before you reprimand. 

4. Some kids will need to multiple trainings on tasks. Explain kindly as many times as necessary.

Praise vs. Encouragement Copy

A child needs encouragement like a plant needs water. It is essential to healthy growth and development. Rudolf Dreikurs Encouragement teaches kids self-reliance and a growth mindset. Praise fosters dependence on others, a fixed mindset and can turn teens into “approval junkies.”  Praise: “You’re such a good kid.” Encouragement:  “I really appreciate your help.” Praise: “I’m so proud of you. Here’s $5.”Encouragement: “You worked hard. You must be so proud of yourself.” en·cour·age·ment noun 1. to inspire with courage2. the action of giving someone support, confidence, or hope. “thank you for all your support and encouragement praise noun 1. to express favorable judgment of2. to glorify, especially by attribution of perfection3. an expression of approval 

Stop the Worry Copy

Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy. Leo F. Buscaglia

Worry Creates a Negative Loop in Your Brain 

Worry gives you three things you don’t want: .

1. sleep deprivation .
2. a whole lot of fear and .
3. worrying makes your kids feel like there’s something wrong with them— they are someone to be worried about.

Use Worry as STOP sign.

1. When worry comes up, STOP analyze it and look for solutions.

2. When you have no power over a situation, practice acceptance.

3. Create a positive affirmation to counteract worry. “All is well.” or “I have complete confidence in my child.”

4. Protect your mind and your happiness. Avoid worry loops in your brain.

Conflict Communication Copy

Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply. Stephen R. Covey

When you can listen during conflict, teens feel encouraged and understood.

1. Listen to the whole story.

2. Express understanding for your teen’s thoughts and feelings.

3. Show empathy without condoning unwanted behavior.

4. After you’ve listened, share your thoughts and feelings.

5. Focus on solutions together.

Natural Consequences Copy

In nature there are neither rewards nor punishments; there are consequences. Robert Green Ingersoll

Children develop resiliency and competence by experiencing the natural consequences of their decisions. 

1. Avoid lectures, “I told you so.”

2. Express empathy, “I’m sorry you have so much homework to do.”

3. Comfort without rescuing, “Would you like me to make you a sandwich?”

4. Validate feelings, “I’m sorry you feel overwhelmed.”